How Boundary Ambiguity Between Parents Negatively Impacts Children
Do you get to have the same friends as your former partner has after separating? Do you still get to call their parents for help with the kids? Are you allowed to just walk into their house that use to be yours?
How do you know you can or can't do these things? Did you talk about these things with your ex-partner? Many parents haven't and evidence shows this negatively impacts a child's adjustment.
Researchers have studied extensively the impact of divorce on children. Less is known, however, about parental behavior during the divorcing process in relation to the impact of divorce on children. What is known is that conflict between parents is problematic for children (Amato, 2006; 2010). Before and after a divorce, a child is at greater risk for a variety of emotional and behavioral problems compared to a child not experiencing parental divorce (Amato & Afifi, 2006; Amato et al., 2011).